Sarah’s “Our House” column tackles issues that couples face when merging two lives into one. Have a question or topic you’d like her to cover? Let us know in the comments.
Are you moving into his place? Is he moving into yours? Are you getting a fresh start together somewhere new? Here’s a checklist of things to consider before you get into it. Sit down with your partner and discuss these practical issues, which will SO help you get organized and cut down on future conflict. If, in the face of the reality of these topics, your desire to live together grows instead of shrivels, that’s a good sign!
The Move-in Talk
Does our move mesh well with our schedules, giving us enough time to pack, hire a mover (or move everything ourselves), settle in amidst our busy work schedules?
If we can’t take vacation time, how do we plan to get help coordinating our move?
Will we be living in a space that’s big enough for both of us and fits all our stuff?
Will we keep one of each major piece of furniture and get rid of duplicates?
Will we divide the bills?
Will we make a budget together?
Do we know each other’s living habits?
Have we agreed on who will be responsible for each household chore?
Will we decorate (or re-decorate) the home together to get a fresh start as a couple?
Have we told the important people in our lives that we’re moving in together?