LaShanda asked us an excellent, touchy question:
“How do you tell guests that children are not invited without appearing to be anti-child?”
Lindsey gives this good advice:
I think in a situation like this you have to make your decision, be confident in that choice, and stick with
it. You shouldn’t be concerned that others might view you as “anti-child,” and do you want to know
why? Because no matter what you do during a wedding, there will always be someone who is not going
to get what they want. That is just the nature of gatherings such as these, where you get a bunch of
people together under one roof. Someone is going to want something that they can’t have, and that
is ok! As a nanny of four years now, I think the very last thing anyone would ever call me is anti-child,
but even I wouldn’t invite children to an event that I did not feel was suitable. In all actuality, doesn’t
that make you more in tune with a child’s needs, and the absolute opposite of anti-child? There is a
time and a place for children, and sometimes a wedding is just not one of them. If a parent snaps at
you, remember that it is most likely displaced frustration over hiring a babysitter or sending the kids to
grandma’s for the weekend. Don’t take it personally. Some people cannot imagine a wedding without
children, while others wish to have an adult only wedding. At the end of the day, the wedding is yours
and only you can make that choice.
The way you address your invitations will be a huge hint to your guests if kids are welcome or not.
Listing the names of those who are invited in the invitation and RSVP check offs are great ways to be
specific. If you want to make absolutely sure that there is no confusion, you can write things like, “Adults
Only,” or “Join us for an adults only evening of………………” on the invitations/reception cards. As long as
you avoid statements such as “no children” or “18 and over,” you will not sound tacky or snobby.
Sometimes, the grownups just need a party all to themselves.
How are you planning on handling this situation at your wedding? Tell us in the comments!