When your guest list is small, a whole new world of venues will open up to you. You will get to choose your venue based on your tastes (rather than the size of your guest list), which really allows the area you wed in to reflect who you are as a couple. You can get married in a backyard, art museum, barn, bed and breakfast, firehouse, or sailboat.
Attention to Detail:
Less area to cover allows you to get really creative with your space. Have you always loved the look of those lights strung across a garden’s tree tops for guests to mingle under? Well, when you don’t have hundreds of heads that you need to create lighting for, this becomes much more possible. Each decoration can have a unique and hand-touched feel. Decorations become more you and less “bought in bulk.”
Budget and Splurging:
Small weddings do something magical to the budget aspect of a wedding: they allow you to spend less, but also allow you to splurge on things that would never have been possible if your guest list were still at 250. Have you had your eye on a special dress, a dream honeymoon, or just always drooled over the idea of having that swanky French cuisine restaurant in town be your wedding caterer?
DIY Becomes Possible:
If you love DIY, then DIY becomes much easier when your guest list is shaved down. I love do-it-yourself projects because they show off my creativity, make me feel like I contributed my talents, are much nicer on my wallet, and give a more intimate and handmade feel.
Small Venues vs Reception Halls:
When you are decorating in a huge reception hall, or any large area for that matter, it is going to take much more effort to portray the style you are going for. This can get really expensive. In most small venues, the area surrounding you is already well-defined and is not such a blank slate for you to work with.
Destination Weddings Are More Doable:
Have you always fantasized about saying “I do” in some far-off place, but still want your loved ones there? Destination weddings are much more attainable when you are only asking your nearest and dearest to travel with you.
You Can Relax:
One of the biggest reasons why people opt for the small wedding route is because the idea of a large wedding really is off-putting to them, and that is totally OK. Some people can’t imagine their wedding without having the maximum amount of people watch them walk down the aisle, while to others that idea makes them pale and weak in the knees. We are all different, and we have to respect that. The biggest concern about a small wedding is that brides are afraid of offending friends and family. I personally am the kind of person who gets very nervous about the idea of a large wedding. I know my family wouldn’t expect me to have anything other than an intimate ceremony. Sometimes mothers get upset because they want their daughters to have the wedding they never could; sometimes acquaintances are hurt because they thought you guys were close enough for an invitation. Ultimately, you have to remind everyone that this wedding is about you and your fiancé. Tell them that you wish for this wedding to reflect the type of couple you two are, which in your case, is a couple focused on intimate, personal experiences. And if they don’t like that answer, blame it on the budget. In this era, almost everyone understands that reasoning.
Are you struggling with the decision to have a small wedding? Let’s discuss your situation in the comments.