If you don’t TL;DR on this post, you’ll learn a lot about me today. Internets, here’s where I show myself.
3. Speaking of Claire Danes: it’s her birthday. And for years, people have commented how–especially when we were younger and I was thinner–we look virtually alike, even to the point of stopping me on the street to ask for an autograph. And what’s even more, my husband says that Claire Danes’ character on Homeland reminds him so, so much of me, both in the big ways and the little, her mannerisms and habits and obsessions. WHICH I THINK MAKES ME AWESOME. So happy birthday, Claire, spawner of my fictional doppelganger.
4. This article by DIY Couturier, which I can’t get out of my head. I could have said all these things, both about myself and other people I love. Rosalind wrote it first, and better. My #1: get out of bed, every day, no matter you bad you feel on a cellular level. (This gets both easier and harder with a partner and children.) The overwhelming internet reaction to her list illustrates just how misunderstood yet overwhelmingly common depression still is.
5. When I was 19, I dropped out of school (see above) and rattled around Paris for a few months. It was a city of resurrection, and this guide to picnicking in the city is a happy reminiscence.
8. These are all things I would tell my 19-year-old self. In addition to: keep taking your meds, dumbass.
What does all of this revelation have to do with weddings? Not a damn thing. Well, unless you consider that these issues–of mental health, the quest for a happy life, the acceptance of one’s character and hard wiring–have everything to do with being an adult and crafting a path of self-understanding rather than self-destructing. That they have everything to do with being in a marriage and knowing what will and won’t work in yourself and in a relationship and in a partner.
(If you want more on this constellation of issues, I think we’ll be digging through it in the future. Also, A Practical Wedding has a really good archive on depression and the more general high-low of married life.)
And because I’m quite skilled at deflecting a fraught moment, here’s Macklemore crashing a wedding with the Nordstrom crew: